Roka and Tilak Ceremony Gifts

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Roka and tilak ceremony gifts The roka is where both families stop looking, which is what the word means. The tilak is where the men of the bride's family come to the groom's house, mark his forehead and hand over the shagun in front of everybody. Some families hold the two together on one afternoon. Others keep the roka as a quiet lunch and let the tilak be the first proper function of the wedding, and in Bihar and eastern UP the tilak is often the larger of the two. What does not change is that whatever you buy will be opened in a room full of relatives. The gift is one item on a tray, and that decides what to buy At both ceremonies the shagun arrives as a set of trays: clothes for the groom, a coconut, sweets and dry fruits, an envelope of cash, often a gold chain or a ring. Nearly all of it is eaten, worn or banked within the month. The murti is the exception. It goes into the family mandir, and it is still there when the couple's first child is born. So an idol does not replace the shagun and is not meant to. It travels on the tray with everything else, and it is the part of the tray that gets kept. That also settles the question of scale, because you are choosing the thing a household will look at for years rather than the thing that wins the afternoon. Who you are actually giving it to This is a family to family gift, and that is where most of the advice you will find goes wrong. Watches, perfume, ties and grooming hampers are gifts for a person. At the tilak the groom takes the gift standing in front of his parents, and his mother is usually the one who decides where it goes, so what you want is something the household would have chosen for itself. A Ganesha is the most given and the hardest to get wrong, since both ceremonies are a beginning and Ganesha is who you turn to at a beginning. A Lakshmi Ganesh pair is the more considered version of the same thought: it points at the household the marriage is about to create rather than at the wedding itself. The